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Many Black people still consider race to be the utmost problem of the Black community, and in a way it is. How do you deal with anything else when people are stuck on hate of color of your skin or otherwise trying to pretend its invisible or trendy? They can’t even get past the vital surface to see what’s also important.

But this stubborn insistence on race by itself is not working. Through genocide, colonialism, and slavery, white people have defined our bodies and families as dysfunctional, uncivilized, disease-ridden by heredity, ugly, and unworthy. The stigma sticks. To this day, many of us are only invested in proving them wrong, as opposed to understanding that they have always been wrong and we have nothing to prove to them; you validate them by insisting only on the right to survive by insisting there is something you need to prove to them.

When it comes to patriarchy, heterosexism, misogyny, colorism/shadeism, and fat acceptance/body positivity, the Black community is seriously lacking and part of the reason is because we have been broken to be divided. Its a constant game of one-ups and privilege-play, one of us having it better than someone else.

Division is such a serious issue that I don’t even know if using the word “Black community” is even right anymore. I now live in a neighborhood and city that constantly reminds me of both white and Mexican anti-Blackness, so not living with people of my own race, as I always have is straining. Is there a such thing as Black spaces when accessibility and location is a huge issue?

Many voices such as myself find only ridicule when I bring up these issues, no matter where I am. Members of the Black community will tell me to “grow thick skin”, “toughen up”, “deal with it”, or that nothing is more important that lifting up Black men and fight racism. Other races don’t get it or parade their misguided teachings and practices of anti-Blackness plain and clear for everyone to see. White people stand around cluelessly, never seeming to grasp the full extend of the problem which they are almost always implicated in directly as oppressors. Some [Black] people are taught to be so individualistic and interested in their survival/self-preservation that any suggestion of unity, learning about multiple and intersectional oppressions to help each other, and solidarity to work at a better society are laughed at and waved aside.

Black peoples’ practice of body acceptance is intimately and inextricably linked to their resistance of and fight against racism. Be that as it may, I still feel its important to specifically have spaces for fat Black women/fat Women of Color that focuses on body positivity and awareness, though I have never experiences one. Its not enough to just fight against racism by itself though it is a crucial step in questioning and challenging oppression.