I think back to the incident with Shameka Moffitt. Some people just had to come over to my blogs and express their unwanted opinions about my opinions (*rolls eyes*) on the situation.
I really don’t want to rehash this situation at all for about two reasons: I believe that most news sources are not reliable, seeing as how it isn’t illegal to falsify the news, last time I checked. If nothing else, it doesn’t paint the entire picture. So who knows what really happened in any situation that we get news coverage for…. Maybe more importantly, if Shameka is over it, I’d rather just let it go.
Still, seeing as how I can’t be certain of either, people’s reactions to this situation are a springboard for these thoughts.
I think the bus driver lost his job, but in many cases similar to this nobody ever turns to the man and questions him and his violent actions. Many sympathize with him as a matter of fact, or claim both parties were equally wrong. It was very clear that the bus driver did not hit her because of her minor physical/verbal assaults against him–he hit her because she was a woman who dared to get in his face about something. He viewed her as a woman stepping out of her place as an inferior and therefore fair game to the same or greater violence he would use against a man of equal strength. Contrarily, he calls her a “she” who wants to “act like a man” so he will “treat her like one”. So he acknowledges her as someone he views as weaker than him in strength but views her actions toward him as a license to punch her because, according to him, she isn’t acting like a woman should.
As a Black woman, even people of her own race are less likely to her as victim under these circumstances with this kind of thinking.
Many Black women grow up knowing that they had better know how to defend themselves or act out certain acceptable female gender roles/behaviors to appear non-threatening to men even though its possible that men will be violent against them anyway. So its Option A) know how to and be strong enough to take a man down, or Option B) constantly try to behave and appear the way men think you should be to avoid conflict and coincide peacefully.
Both are used to police Black women’s behavior and expression. Neither will actually protect you against violence in a culture of sexism, racism, and patriarchy. In fact, one asks that you participate in training yourself for violence to survive and the other asks you to be a doormat and robot.
Out of fear, many Black women justify male dominance, sexism, violence by saying that women are naturally physically inferior to men, either by science or creation (biology or the bible).
What’s more sad and infuriating to me is that Black women victim-blame and scapegoat other Black women for the violent actions and betrayals of [Black] men. It is so acceptable for men to be violent for whatever reason they desire or feel inclined to that no one questions it. Men remain invisible culprits in the entire situation, oftentimes never held responsible for their words or actions. That’s how male privilege, sexism, and racism operates.
In my experience, many Black women will say
“I won’t fight/fight back because he is a man”
and they hardly ever say, if ever,
“I won’t fight this person because they’re stronger than me”. They view men as gods and they will blindly praise the idea that a woman deserves whatever she gets in challenging them in any way.